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Father’s Day: taking care of His kids!

Happy Fathers Day, Abba, Father!

On the Weekend of Father’s Day, and more specifically, Friday and Sunday (June 17 & 19, 2016), a wonderful out-pouring of love, care and much-needed medical attention was provided to Gods kids. Dental, medical, eye/optometry, and pastoral care (provided by two chaplains and a recent graduate of Andrews University Theological seminary (My own Son, Pastor David Ettari)), as well as massage therapy and lifestyle education was provided for two full days – all free to the communities surrounding and including Mansfield, Texas.  This was a pilot program, launched by the Texas Conference of  Seventh-Day Adventists. I happened to be visiting my son, who is presently in school and attending the Mansfield SDA Church, where this “field hospital” was set up requiring every inch of space.

Father's DAY Gift to God!

As I’m a nurse, I was amazed  at the ‘makeshift’ dental hospital, the presence of sophisticated portable eye exam macFather's DAY Gift to God!hines, X-ray and dental equipment, while patients lay in lounge chairs and dentists sat on chairs requiring some difficult maneuvering to reach their patients. Many of the dentists came from Texas A & M University, Baylor College of Dentistry.   I was amazed by the team spirit and the amount of volunteers present as well as the outpouring of hard work by a large group of strangers/medical professionals and volunteers of equal importance (most who call themselves Christians and some reporting no particular faith). They all came because of flyers on cars, announcements in churches, face-book advertisements, local Christian television (Good News TV), local schools and word of mouth – to facilitate a comprehensive goal that could be called, “Project Rescue Gods’ Hurting Kids.” It’s my understanding that all traveled at their own expense and in some cases, quite a distance. IMG_3181

The atmosphere shouted that “We are the family of God!” and His Spirit was evident to all. It was a glimpse of heavens’ mustard seed.

 The next table, lined with equipment, was for those seeking any form of care, ‘the registration table’. Once registered, all were pro-
The Registration Tablevided health screenings. Table after table after table of nurses were busy educating and screening for hypertension, Diabetes and more. Next, the halls were lined with chairs for those waiting for ex ray, dental care, cleaning, medical doctor consults, the eye doctor, and in the annex across the way, massage, life style education and counseling ( by a medical doctor) and pastoral prayer and care were set up.

One medical doctor flew from California, one from Tennessee, one of the many dentists told me he drove four hours. Others flew from distant parts of Texas.

They all came, in any case, sacrificing a relaxing Father’s Day! They came to donate their time and skills in the care of Gods’ kids, many of which were in dire need with no medical insurance. They came, bringing their talents and God-given skills to bless their Heavenly Father and care for HIS children.

I met a Nunurse anesthetistrse-Anesthetist among the rows nurses (RN’s or BSN’s). They were checking blood pressures and blood sugars for hours. One nurse shared that a young man had been found to have high blood pressure. Heart disease is a silent killer and when this young and unaware man learned of his condition, the nurse provided education on changes to his diet, including the importance of minimizing salt as well as the importance of self monitoring and where possible, reporting this to a primary care physician.

But many of the over 500 patients that received medical attention, including teeth cleaning, x-rays, extractions, eye exams leading to new eye glasses,  consults with medical doctors, and important screening for diabetes, Police Chief, Officer and Pastorheart disease and more, do not have medical insurance or the co-pay is cost prohibitive. Also present was the Mansfield Chief of Police and one of his officers pictured here with Pastor Sean Harris of the Mansfield Seventh Day Adventist Church. Dressed in uniform, he provided a sense of additional order to the safe environment of God’ house. His wife is also notable in that she was beaming for joy and expressing gratitude at finding a way to provide service to the Lord on Father’s Day . They are christians from another denomination, but  clearly, they are our brethren.  She explained that she’s a realtor, but dusted off her dental assistant license and was there to pitch in.

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 As I stood by an exit, I noticed a beautiful family; a young husband and wife with a small child in her daddy’s arms.family
I asked if they had any medical care. They smiled and said, “No. We didn’t need anything.” I asked if they were Seventh Day Adventists. They smiled and said, “We are members of the ‘Mansfield Mosque’. We saw the flyers and were curious.” It was my privilege to welcome them to the Seventh Day Adventist church and assure them, that they are more than welcome any time, and invited them to come again.
Just before I left, I met a well dressed man who had dental work and explained that he was living in a near-by shelter and was grateful to be out of pain. Asked if he knew what church this was, he said, ” It’s the Seventh Day Adventist Church”…. And then he said, ” I had no idea they did things like this.”

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Wiggle Room

“Yellow-Light foods” and What I’ve learned.

Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Inspirational Music, Gospel, Christian, Concerts, Public Speaker, Bookings, Christian, OA, GuitarIn my quest to ‘discover’  what foods are driving my eating disorder, in other words, to clarify what foods are leading me back to the cliffs (see Cliff walking), that place where I reach a threshold and binge,  I was asked to make my list of Red-light foods: the foods I know to be binge foods, Green light-foods,  the ones “I’m positive” (Note to self: Really? Are you sure?) I can handle, and my Yellow-light foods, the ones we identify as “I’m not sure they are a problem.” These foods are the ones I have held onto with a vengeance!

That about sums it up. “Get back in there: I can control this, and I’m NOT GIVING IT UP, It’s Mine, Mine Mine!” It wasn’t till I joined a 12 step recovery group that I started to identify ‘what exactly is the problem,’ calling them, “MY” (MINE, MINE, MINE!!!) ‘Red-Light, Green-light and Yellow-light foods.’  After 33 years in this program, I have finally learned, if they are ‘Yellow-light foods’, they are, most likely, ‘red-light’ foods you are holding onto. I had heard this before from one woman, but she said it in such a ‘matter of fact’ way, I dismissed her as being ‘nuts’, ‘wrong’, and gave it the old, “Thanks for the information” (Pg. 39, Anonymous), ‘See ya!’.

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Are you Pickled?

Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Inspirational Music, Gospel, Christian, Concerts, Public Speaker, Bookings, Christian, OA, Guitar“Once an alcohlic, always an alcoholic.” (Pg. 33T BB) 

“Pickled!” Most people in program know and understand that once we are pickled, there is no turning back!

“Many do not comprehend that the alcoholic is a very sick person”. (AA Big Book xiii) This is also true for the compulsive overeater. We don’t get over  a real eating disorder; we don’t get cured, just recovered. It’s sort of like going into remission for the Cancer patient. We make a beginning when we stop the binge eating or other compulsive behaviors related to an eating disorder. We get recovered through the spiritual kit of tools called the “Twelve steps of recovery“. But many remain pickled for an extended period of time. In light of that, you may want to ask yourself the question, ‘What kind of pickle am I?’

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Deception: Who Are You Kidding?

The Deception of Others is Rooted in The Deception of Ourselves!

As I journey through the bible, one particular day of study I read three areas that spoke  pointedly to deception;  I had to consider the importance of this subject for me! Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Singer and Song Writer, Blog, Music, Guitar Twelve Step Recovery, Speaker, Concert Artist, sallyatari@gmail.com, sallyatari.com, StudyThe first thing I read, that morning, was 1 Kings 14:1-9 (I strive to read 3 chapters in the old testament, one in new and one psalm or poetic book chapter.)

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A Timely Pause!

Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Singer and Song Writer, Blog, Music, Guitar Twelve Step Recovery, Speaker, Concert Artist, sallyatari@gmail.com, sallyatari.com, Study, The Power of a Timely Pause!

Pause, Ponder, and Pray!

“No word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.” (Twain) When I was younger, I remember thinking, ‘the idea of waiting on God’ is, for me, not a happy place to sit.  I’m impatient and impulsive so waiting and pausing requires energy and even, concentration. Does anybody like the waiting room?   “As we go through the day we pause, when agitated or doubtful, and ask for the right thought or action. We constantly remind ourselves we are no longer running the show, humbly saying to ourselves, many times each day, ‘Thy will be done’.” (A.A. Big Book Pg 87)

Breaking this down, I see a few important steps that lead to “Thy will be done” and an honest surrender of our will to do God’s will; a good solid trade for an infinitely wiser will, God’s will! Here are the steps to this piece of the puzzle:

1. Pause: this indicates not just a slowing down but the action of stopping! I’ve hit the pause button many times on machines. I haven’t hit the button on my lips as often as I should have. “We pause when agitated or doubtful…” There’s no better time to pause than when upset as the words spoken can be damaging and can’t be taken back!
2. Ask (Pray): this indicates prayer. We ask God for the right thought or action. Here is the turning point where instead of doing things impulsively or seeking an outcome that I willfully want-impatiently doing what I want, I turn, I ask God. Wow! This is new territory for me.
3. Remind myself (Ponder): Hello! Your best thinking got you here! Why not try something new; God’s will. Reminding myself is remembering or pondering my past and the many times I’ve tried things my way!(For more on pondering, see BB Pg. 10 and Pg. 56) and  What an opportunity to do things another way; pausing gives me time to stop and practice conscious contact and pray and then listen for a possible different way to respond or act. I’m not running the show anymore! I’m not playing God and I’m not the director of my life. I fired me! I’m choosing to stop running the show.
4.  Say: “Thy will be done.” White flag flying high, I surrender.

It’s interesting that sixteen years after these words were written,  the coauthor wrote another book (The A.A. 12 & 12, 1952) and said almost exactly the same thing! “In all times of emotional disturbance or indecision, we can pause, ask for quiet, and in the stillness simply say:”God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Thy will, not mine, be done.” (12 & 12, Pg. 41)

So much is said in the A.A. writings about the importance of guarding our mouth and the words that come from our tongue. We are warned over and over not to fight or argue (they are talking about what we do with our words!) On many of the pages of the Big Book, we are told, “the more we fought and tried to have our own way, the worse matters got. As in war, the victor only seemed to win. . . ” (Pg. 66). “And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone, even alcohol.” (Pg. 84) “Argument and fault-finding are to be avoided like the plague.” (Pg. 98) And “. . .we have stopped fighting anybody or anything. We have to!” (Pg. 103) This is why we have to practice pausing. We have to! What I mean is,  I have to! It takes practice because my mouth has always been like a car in gear, ready to run! But i’m refining the changes that are so needed. I’m practicing the pause! (It’s like practicing the guitar; it takes hours of practice!)

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