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Car Etiquette!

“We thought conditions Drove us to drink”…. It never occurred to us that we needed to change ourselves to meet conditions what ever they were.” (Day 1 ‘As Bill Sees It’)

Some one, recently, said, ‘You can tell what kSally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Singer and Song Writer, Blog, Music, Guitar Twelve Step Recovery, Speaker, Concert Artist,,, Studyind of spiritual experience a person has by their ‘driving etiquette.’ As I’m in and out of the car all day for my job, I’ve been thinking a lot about my car etiquette and how I still require a lot of  changes and how sin-full …or shall I say, how full of sin I still I am, (I equate sin with selfishness.) especially in the car when driving. It’s where I see my impatience… selfishness …. And it’s an incredible opportunity for growth and change…. Yesterday when I saw the guy on the bike… it was nice to wait extra long at the stop sign and see His relief when I waved him to go first and he looked sincerely relieved… when I was on my bike a few days ago, I thought.. don’t cars realize how hard it is to get back your momentum … how can they expect the bike to stop for them? It’s like seeing people walk in the rain… really? Does the car have to go first when we are sitting dry? I’m amazed at how much I’m learning about myself and about sin and selfishness while sitting alone in my car… Here are five changes that I focus on when driving my car. . .


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The Herd Instinct!


Videos like this give great pause on a number of levels; It’s not just eating fish and how they are treated behind the scenes; it’s the aquarium industry! People buying beautiful fish to put in their homes and businesses. How it affects the coral reefs is astounding!  I watched a movie this past Sabbath (I often watch documentaries and nature videos rented from the library on my day of rest. It’s an absolute treat I highly recommend.) This is one small video clip from such a video. Here are a few statements the video made about the unique and special place called, ‘The Coral Reef”.

Diversity! These are a few of the statements made about life on the Coral Reef. ‘ There is more diversity here than anywhere else on the planet.’ Did you know, that ‘the community remains in balance because it functions together? The community stays healthy and whole because of diversity!. . . Neither plant nor coral can survive without the other. . . and that’s the key the whole coral reef community is built on: relationship!.”

Symbiosis: a relationship between two people or groups that work with and depend on each other; a cooperative relationship! Close Union of dissimilar organisms!! “The relationship between 2 different kinds of living things that live together and depend on each other! This is so amazing: the glassy minnows, in groups of hundr Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Singer and Song Writer, Blog, Music, Guitar Twelve Step Recovery, Speaker, Concert Artist,, sallyatari.comeds,  move as a unit (these tiny little fish) and they dance as a group. The Gruber comes along and plows into the center of them in an effort to eat just one and can not isolate even a single minnow because of their ‘herd instinct!’ They press into each other and dance through the whole event! Oh, how beautiful!


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Early will I seek you!

Wait, What time is it? 

One morning, upon waking up, I was bleary-eyed. (Because I suffer with ‘dry eyes’, I put eye ointment into both eyes before sleep that leads to a significant blurry condition in the morning.) I washed and dressed and went to eat breakfast and make Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Singer and Song Writer, Blog, Music, Guitar Twelve Step Recovery, Speaker, Concert Artist,, sallyatari.commy lunch and finally, wide awake, that’s when I saw the stove clock. It said, 4:44! In the words of Charlie Brown, ‘AAUGH!!! What? “I’m exhausted!” That’s funny, I wasn’t exhausted ten minutes ago when I thought it was 5:30 AM? Our minds play such funny tricks on us!

Why is it so scary to wake up really early and then fret that we won’t live through the day because of anticipated exhaustion?! Yes, fret over what will happen if I don’t get more sleep. Well, I was happy to be up and have time to prepare my meals; my breakfast and lunch, my back pack and have time in God’s word and more – all in the course of a morning. I was tired long around 3pm and after finishing a full day of work, went home, crawled into bed and had a lovely nap! And it was all worth it!

As I’m reading in Exodus right now, I noticed that over and over, Moses is told to “Rise early in the morning and stand before Pharaoh, and say to him, Thus says the Lord God of the Hebrews: “Let my people go, that they may serve me.”” (Ex. 8: 20, 9:13). In fact, the words, “Rise Early” is a common start to instructions presented by God.

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Who’s in Your Front Row? -Part Two

More on the Friends Ideals!

“How many seats does your front row have?”, she asked me. (Please see Monday’s, January 26, 2015, post!) What kind of question is that? I don’t know, how many does yours have? How much time are you giving away? Can you afford the negativity of open access to sick, program people not trying to get well? Who are the people you trust with your personal business? Do you have trust worthy friends? Who will tell you the truth, not tell you what you want to hear? Are you looking for co-signers to your stuff or do you want to grow? What is the mark of a true friendship? What gets in the way of a true friendship? Am I trying to fix people? These are important questions and thought-provoking to say the least. Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Singer and Song Writer, Blog, Music, Guitar Twelve Step Recovery, Speaker, Concert Artist,,

In the first post on friendship, I mentioned friendship ideals. Here is a more comprehensive list, compiled with the help of a friend.

My ideal friendship:

  • is balanced and has lots of laughter; it’s focused on being positives.
  • is growing spiritually; is supportive and encouraging; my values are respected even if we don’t share the same values.
  • includes good listening skills for each other and our relationship does not include consigning each others bad behaviours; it’s not co-dependant.  (We are not each other’s God!)
  • is one that doesn’t put one another down;  a friend who agrees we are both busy and there are no expectations.
  •  is unconditional and we can be honest and open, speaking our truth without any hurt feelings. If there are, we talk freely about them.
  • is one where we would never hurt each other intentionally and we are loving and not trying to out do or compete with one another.
  • speaks the truth freely; ‘ Faithful are the wounds of a friend. (Proverbs 27:6)

Apparently, people who set healthy boundaries get these concepts without cheat sheets or visuals. It’s back to the
 Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Singer and Song Writer, Blog, Music, Guitar Twelve Step Recovery, Speaker, Concert Artist,, sallyatari.comauditorium visual for me as I am truly figuring out that I do treat everyone like they are my best friend and there is plenty of room for everybody. But there isn’t! That said, the question is, “Who is in your front row and how many people can you fit?” Is twenty reasonable (a random number)?”  These people have daily and open access  and include  closest family (my sisters and brother), my grown children, best friends and are people I hold close. In the second row are  family, church friends, people who are loving and kind, supportive and caring; they are good-hearted people and I hold them dear.  Beyond the second row, and in the next five rows are many important people, friends and fellows in my life. Co-workers and additional church friends, neighbors and old friends.  Our friends are like a precious bouquet of flowers that color the back drop of our lives and bring bursts of joy to any given day.


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“EVERYONE CAN’T BE IN YOUR FRONT ROW” Sally Ettari a/k/a Sally Atari, Singer and Song Writer, Blog, Music, Guitar Twelve Step Recovery, Speaker, Concert Artist,,

(The following is an excerpt from an article written by: Anonymous) Life is a theater so invite your audiences carefully. Not everyone is holy enough and healthy enough to have a FRONT ROW seat in our lives.

There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It’s amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere relationships, friendships, fellowships and family!  Everyone Can’t be in Your FRONT ROW.

Observe the relationships around you. Pay attention to: Which ones lift and which ones lean?

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